ANGER

Anger is the manifestation of deeper issue….and that, for me is based upon insecurity, self-esteem and loneliness. Anger management is not possible until we solve those deeper issues which lies somewhere in mind or in the heart and which are deliberately forbidden by ourselves only. I don’t believe in excuses, it didn’t happen…because of this, it happened because of that…I believe in solution and completion. Finally, it didn’t happen…my fault or lack of determination, it happened… because I worked for this only.

                     Anger comes with smaller things become bigger due to regular and ascending ignorance of something, someone. Anger comes by intensity of insecurity. My insecurity for something or someone is a very natural process and a part of human behaviour. It shows and expresses my attachment, attraction, infatuation and dependence for that particular thing and sometimes when insecurity becomes more than enough it comes out in the form of anger. If we talk about reduction of this kind of anger, it is really simple, don’t hide your insecurity, share it, share with me or share with anybody else. Just don’t avoid it. Insecurity is not dangerous; the bi-products of insecurity are dangerous.

              Anger comes by self-esteem. Self-esteem, the values, attitude and belief that we hold about ourselves. The nature has gifted us by thousands of qualities which are really beautiful and necessary. Protection system and responsiveness are also belonging to those qualities. If something, someone hurts our self-esteem; the responsiveness comes out in the form of anger. But the important thing is to control that because responsiveness should not be dependent only on that action of damage it should also take a look on the intention of a doer.

        Anger also is the creation of loneliness. Sometimes a single person is enough to make feel of the whole world, and sometimes a crowd is not enough to reduce your loneliness. It is a mutual understanding factor, a factor that decides our friends and life partners. There is no satisfactory solution for loneliness but I can assure you for one thing that if we don’t let it convert in anger, then it is the extremely perfect maker of creativity and efficiency.  It is the undesired and unidentified emotion which may give you more than you imagined or it may make you beggar. It depends on us how do use it.

                                           So, if you are angry or your loved ones are angry, handle them, help them, support them.